This morning, I made the long awaited call to the Dutch FA. After numerous sessions with various medical specialists, I can resume reffing after more than a year absence. Continue reading “Green light to resume refereeing – Rodric Leerling”
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It apparently is known as the ‘referee’s ear’. I never heard of it before (…) but ever since I have this ringing noise in my head, I started to connect the dots. Continue reading “Check your whistle ref! – Rodric Leerling”
The referee on my roster was happy to see me. But when we met, he admitted not feeling too well. A headache hit him in the morning but duty was calling and he read on his portal I was to mentor him. So he made the trip, hoping the meds would do their job. Continue reading “Headache or not, ref you shall! – Rodric Leerling”
My ref season started last week with accompanying a new, young referee. At least something I can do while being injured. Continue reading “No Cornerflags, No Dressing Rooms And A Rookie Ref – Rodric Leerling”
The rheumatologist made the promised call, sharing the recent bloodtest results. Blood is fine. No indications for auto-immune disorder. So, it looks like the inflammation has been halted. Yeah.
Then his question: how are you? Well, the knee is still normal after almost three weeks. Good. Sounds like you are back to normal. With this restriction: no peak muscle stress advised for the next three months.
So, refereeing will have to wait till January. In the meantime it’s important not to trigger a new inflammation and not put too much pressure on the knee muscles.
I’m ok with that as long as I can go about without pain and stiffness. And no new medication. Four months of a weird sudden inflammation seem over. Maybe ignited by a heavy sports season afterall. Full circle after all.
Last week, I met an old business acquaintance, and as always we talked about the different people we have met in life. The ones we worked with as colleagues or whom we reported or sold to. Some you will remember your whole life, whereas some others you really try to forget.
I mentioned a mental list I’ve drawn up of different kinds of ‘business ducks’. Starting with the ‘Odd Duck’ and the newly created categories to the extreme: ‘Funny’ and ‘Psycho’. The Odd Duck are just funny and OK to work with, nothing special. They pass and you stay in touch on LinkedIn or Xing.
But you will remember the ones in the ‘outside categories’. My friends for life are often made in the Funny Duck category. People you connected with, whom you shared your dreams and fears. The ones you told you were becoming a father, or that your mother just died. They would do the same to you and we would just hug or ‘high-five’ on Skype, depending on the situation. I’ve still got many friends in business whom I know well, even when the direct business ties are gone. It’s just good to talk to them again, or preferably meet in person when you are around.
The business relations that will also stay with you for life, despite efforts to delete them from memory, are the ‘Psycho Ducks’. The people who were just interested in themselves and their career. Who didn’t want to talk about the relativity of things and never showed their emotions. Or worse, the narcissists who think the whole world orbits around their pitiful person. Who bullied other people, including yourself, played with contracts and didn’t keep their promises. Showing their domination, often with a high IQ but mostly with very little EQ.
Funnily enough, the lists on both ends of my business spectrum are quite evenly filled. I’ve once started writing down my mental lists and they showed a good balance. Well, that’s life, I guess. One thing I learned from all this: always try to stay the Funny Duck yourself and make new friends, keep doing business with the unavoidable Odd Ducks but learn to avoid the Psycho Ducks.
I was excited and busy making plans for a great Summer football season. The field play-offs already started with a last-minute mid-week AR assignment and another AR one for this weekend. On top of that, I received a last-minute futsal play-off game to ref as well. And I was invited to a company field tournament in June and was enlisted for Beach Soccer reffing again soon. Exciting!
But then suddenly, my body told me it was enough for now. Last weekend, my right knee suddenly swelled like a balloon. No pain, just stiff and impossible to bend. Well, I thought, it sure will be better tomorrow. But it stayed bad so I had to see a doctor who did some basic tests and said the swelling could be reduced with medication. If it doesn’t change, come back next week. Bit surprised, but didn’t want to argue.
Well, it is next week now, and the knee not only still looks swollen, but is also hurting now. Medication doesn’t seem to work, so I’m planning to see the doctor again, this time to ask for physio therapy. In the meantime, I had to cancel the futsal play-off game and two field play-off games. I’m slightly worried about the rest of the upcoming field play-off games. Maybe it’s season finale for me, before it even started. Maybe I pressed myself too hard to get the futsal promotion, who knows. Combination of futsal and field games getting too much?
So, it’s time to do some other things. Write another personal blog. Visit some friends. Make myself useful around the house. Limping.
If I Googled you, what would I find? No, not just you, digital immigrant and experienced adult as you are, but much more should we ask this question to our children. Do they fully comprehend they left a big digital footprint already, ever since the moment they started hitting images on computer tablets and mobile phones?
In fact, from the moment we all started moving around the online world, we are leaving tracks and traces of our activity just all the time: think of social media accounts, the popular tagged images, your professional presences, scraps of text in mini blog platforms like Twitter and Facebook. And there are items we don’t even realize we leave behind, such as search activities and web browsing. Profiles are being drawn of us and data are gathered while we type in names, numbers and characters. And don’t forget the comments you made on other people’s views, the restaurant views or hotel experiences you uploaded, and the tagged pictures posted during the holidays.
So, unless you are not using social media platforms, having an online presence should be considered as a normal part of our digital lives. And leaving a digital footprint is very important as it will help to present yourself in support of your resume or LinkedIn profile. Everybody is active online, but few people today are aware of the picture it offers to others while checking you out. So make sure your online presence is correctly representing who you are. Get the balance between your professional and personal presence right. Let the digital footprint actually work for you, creating a positive first impression when your name is Googled.
Really, Google is the new background check. Better make sure your online reputation is in line with who you are.
I started listening to one of my recently subscribed podcasts The Fizzle Show (FS211). For starters I learned I should start labeling myself as Indie Entrepreneur: people who are “creating businesses to live life on their own terms”. The confirm that “yes, it’s amazing, it’s difficult, but it’s also possible”.
The podcast show is designed to help Indie entrepreneurs growing their small and solo businesses. Those people like me who are running their independent living, not looking to eventually become internet millionaire, but enjoy the business freedom and be free to change or add different projects. Using and improving their talents in another way.
The second learning was by listening to their show guest Vanessa Van Edwards teaching about the Science of Personality. Use your unique voice to positively influence the world. To put it simply: you can’t appeal to everyone. By behaving that way, you in fact won’t appeal to anyone and waste tremendous amount of energy faking things while saying ‘yes’ to everything. Where is your energy to say ‘yes’ to only the good things?
It taught me there are more personal types than just intraverts and extraverts – how about an ‘ambivert’? Very interesting to realize you can even be both, switching between these personality traits, depending on the situation, depending on who you meet and deal with. In fact, the majority of us have both introverted and extroverted tendencies. The direction ambiverts lean toward varies greatly, depending on the situation. The way you deal with different situations and how social you are is largely driven by dopamine, the brain’s feel-good hormone.
People with a natural high level of brain stimulation tend to be introverts—people who try to avoid any extra social stimulation that might make them feel anxious or overwhelmed. On the opposite, there are people with low levels of this brain stimulation and who tend to be extroverts. You will notice in social interaction like with networking events – the under-stimulation leaves extroverts feeling bored, so they seek social stimulation to feel good.
I realize I might be an ambivert too. What to do? It seems that the trick is knowing when to force yourself to lean toward one side of the spectrum (extra or intra) when it isn’t happening naturally. Will keep that in mind at the next networking event!
It’s slowly dawning on business people – when everyone is checking out everything online, the same surely will happen to me as a person. But why are they not bothered about it yet? As always, business people will consider ‘will I lose any business from it?’ I’m sure you will, but let’s stay positive: how about gaining new business?
Let’s face it: we have all become part of a reputation economy and Google is the new background check. Even for you as a person. So when your online presence is not in sync with your off-line-me or simply not appealing enough, sorry, no investment or alas, no job offer. VC’s and Hiring Managers move on to a better candidate.
We increasingly are invited to speak about this new phenomena and how to harness yourselve against it. We usually start by telling attendees to google their own name first. And then imagine yourself before an important meeting, say as a hiring manager, or a start-up investor – would you do business with ‘you’? Because who is this person applying for the job in real life? What is happening outside his or her polished LinkedIn profile? Does he have any hobbies or other personal interest? Who in fact are we dealing with? No answers, or at best, a blurred image can mean no next step.
Checking a name on LinkedIn can be too direct and obvious, so Google as most popular search option is used without you even being aware. Google page 1 with the 10 hits are offering a quick snap shot of what a person stands for. It can generally produce three options: 1.You are not present at all – do you really exist? 2.You have a pretty blurred image – no, totally not you. 3.You are in sync with your other profiles. When a choice can be made between candidates, who would you prefer?
People like to do business with people. Not just with good looking profiles or shining images. Make sure you are represented well online. If you don’t do it, social media and Google as search indexer will do it for you. Better get ahead.